People patience

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I have always been very patient with people. Things tend to be a different story. If I’m waiting for something to arrive in the mail, for instance, or waiting for payday so I can get something I’ve had my eye on, or for a birthday or last day of school before a break…those things I can certainly get impatient about. But people? I have always had a soft spot for people and have always had a high threshold for giving the benefit of the doubt.

If you ask me, we all deserve a second chance. We are all fighting different battles that no one knows about, yet as humans we still tend to judge someone based on one exchange we have with them, or we get impatient or irritated and snap at them or write them off. As soon as we do that, we’ve lost the opportunity to learn something about that person or help them through something that they may greatly need support for.

I guess it shouldn’t come as a surprise that being a teacher is a great way to use my people patience. I am an understanding and forgiving person, and some would probably say that I give too many chances. But when I look at some of my students who come from homes filled with violence, neglect, substance abuse, poverty, or dysfunction, it’s hard for me to be a stickler about a particular due date or a quiz retake. We are all worth noticing, we are all worth fighting for, and we are all worthyTo be impatient with people is to say we aren’t willing to consider what they might be going through. We aren’t willing to understand where they are coming from, put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, or change our opinion of someone due to a new perspective. We aren’t willing to step outside of ourselves and really think hard about someone else. I think that people, for the most part, are good. Developmental psychology studies tell us that we need people to trust and count on, and that we need a place to belong in order to feel secure. We depend on these things in order to live a fulfilled and content life. So before we write someone off, or lose our patience with them, maybe we can remember that we’re all in this together, and it takes all of us to make it through.

As the holiday season is most certainly upon us, I think people need a little extra TLC. For some people, this time of year is difficult due to loved ones who have passed away or can’t be here. For others, there is the stress of having family in town, traveling out of town, packing, shopping, preparing…and for those who have families who just don’t do family stuff very well, the holidays can be painful.

We need more kindness in the world, and not just at the holidays. We need people to understand each other better. We need more people patience.

 

Gettin’ hitched!

We are engaged!!!

I wrote about our story/how we met a little while back, and Monday was the 2 year anniversary of when Andrew asked me to be his girlfriend. On Tuesday, he asked me to be his wife! It is so surreal to even write this post, and it has only been a couple of days, but the week has been packed and full of emotion and excitement!

Tuesday at school, Andrew told me he had made us reservations for Sullivan’s Steakhouse in downtown Raleigh, and so I was already excited and looking forward to a fun evening out together. We were getting ready to leave for dinner, and he stopped me in front of my Christmas tree and said he wanted a REAL reason to celebrate, and he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him! I was so shocked I asked him if he was serious or if it was a joke! We were so excited and all of a sudden the shock wore off and I started boo-hooing (of course!). I made Andrew tell me all of the details of how long he knew, did anyone else know, allllll the questions! We headed to dinner and he told me all the things he had rehearsed in his head all day to say – when he actually proposed, he was so nervous he forgot everything he wanted to say! We had such an exciting and happy dinner. The manager brought us a glass of champagne, and we just enjoyed ourselves so much!

at sullivan’s after our dinner!

The ring was Andrew’s mom’s. His dad gave it to her for their 30th wedding anniversary, and with his dad being gone now, it is such a special reminder every time I look at my ring. It is beautiful and exactly what I wanted! I was giving Andrew a hard time because I have been getting regular gel manicures for months, and the weekend I decided to do my own nails and stop going to get them done professionally, he proposed! That’s how it goes, right?

Hopefully soon, we’ll be picking a date and starting to nail down some details, but for now, I am just so excited and trying to soak it all in!

We’re getting married! 🙂

My best friend’s wedding

Most of you probably know by now that my best friend is a wonderfully talented photographer. She started her own business last year and she has really worked hard to get to where she is. Needless to say, I’m so proud of her for pursuing her dreams, hustling, and maintaining her life and other job all at the same time. A large focus of her photography sessions is on weddings, engagements, and couples – so I’m tickled pink that now the tables are turned and she’s going to be the one getting married!!! She asked me to be her Maid of Honor, and at the risk of sounding cheesy…I’m really honored to stand by her on her big day and support her through this planning process. What an exciting time!

Whitney and Romain make a great team. Romain is practical, a little Type A (like me), and really loves Whitney (that’s my favorite part). Whitney is a little more carefree, spontaneous, and they both share a love for food and exploring local events! Romain is the other half of Whitney’s photography team, and they support each other’s dreams like any strong couple should. I can’t wait to watch them tie the knot!

Plus, Romain is a f a n t a s t i c cook, so I never mind going over to hang out, if you catch my drift!

Lovebirds 

Last week, Whitney invited our friend Kelly and me over to have dinner. We are her two bridesmaids – they are keeping their wedding pretty intimate. We were excited to just have some delicious food, wine, and to catch up a little bit. Life is busy when you get older; I’m realizing that now more than ever. Little did we know, Whitney had put together a sweet bridesmaid surprise with gifts for us! This was the cutest idea, and I wasn’t expecting anything at all. Everything was color-coordinated and it was the perfect touch to an already exciting occasion.

I’m stealing these photos right from Whitney’s camera roll – my measly iPhone camera can’t do it justice!

A silky robe for the wedding day, kleenex, a candle, and champagne!

I am thrilled to be celebrating these two for the months to come (and beyond). Congratulations and best wishes to my BFF and partner in crime!

Valentine’s Day


My three furry valentines

I’m always interested to learn how people celebrate holidays. I love any chance to celebrate and be festive, but Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that either makes people starry-eyed or annoyed and angry. My high school students are quick to flash around their teddy bears, flowers, chocolates, but if they don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, they are grumpy all day!

Andrew and I do celebrate Valentine’s Day, but we don’t do anything major. I love having something to look forward to, but I can’t justify spending big money on a holiday designed to, well, make money! Last year was our first Valentine’s Day together, and Andrew cooked dinner for me, something simple but really special in my opinion. We stayed in, rented a movie, wore soft clothes, and had the best time staying in with all the dogs. This year was similar; I was in charge of dinner, so I picked up Mexican from one of our favorite places down the road. I made a “Perfect Size” chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. We do cards and flowers/chocolate, but nothing too crazy. We recently started watching Friday Night Lights together, and I’m officially hooked, so we watched a few episodes of that. It was a perfect Tuesday night Valentine’s Day together! The dogs got some extra treats, too 🙂

It really was the perfect little cake!

Even if you’re like my grumpy students when it comes to Valentine’s Day, remember that the real idea should just be to share and appreciate love, and spread a little more of it around. We should be thankful for the love we have every day, but it’s nice to have a little extra day set aside just for that.

I hope everyone’s Valentine’s Day was LOVEly…see what I did there?